Social Anxiety

At some point in ours lives we will experience the fear of social anxiety, for some people its just a little thing and we get over it fairly quickly, for other people it sort of over powers them and makes them so nervous it comes without words.

For me I used to be riddled with social anxiety, there was a point in my life where I was scared of stepping outside of my front door encase I met someone I knew or the fear of just being judged. I was like this for months, I guess that’s just a side affect of being bullied.

See no one really explains how it feels to have social anxiety, I guess the closet thing I could describe it to is the feeling of having to do a school presentation, you know the feeling where you feel a lump in your throat because you have to stand in front of your classmates or work-colleges and your scared of saying the wrong thing and looking stupid?? Well imagine feeling like that everyday but ten times worse.

Now I do have to say I’m not as bad as I used to be, I tend to be more confident and I’m able to go out and have a good time without worrying, that’s not to say that the thoughts of getting judged or seeing someone I know aren’t still there, cause they are but their more at the back of my head nowadays rather than the front.

The reason for me letting you know that I’ve struggled with social anxiety is because i want to help people who are going threw social anxiety or have went threw it and need someone to relate too or talk too.

Some tips that helped me when I was trying to get over social anxiety was something my Mum told me “who cares what people think of you, in a few years time you’ll never see half those people again” and she was right, if your going to school and your suffering from social anxiety, because your worried of being judged by certain people or your being bullied and your scared of seeing those assholes, just remember that this is just a small fraction of your life these people are only going to be in your life for a short period of time and then they’ll be gone out your life for ever.

Something that also helped me was reading other blogs about anxiety and social anxiety like Zoella and other blogs.

Other things that helped me with social anxiety is friendships, after I found a good supportive friend group, they helped me gain confidence and find who I was. Now I’m not friends with alot of that group anymore because… reasons but I have kept in contact with a few individuals like my friends Jamie Leigh and Caroline, along aside my two best friends Erin and Jennifer as those were the ones that were there for me through out everything, so I would recommend finding a supportive friend group or a supportive person to talk to.

See social anxiety shouldn’t be something that takes over your life and if it is you need to be the one to change it, see social anxiety won’t just disappear over night, it’s along, slow and hard process to just begin scratching the surface of social anxiety, I’ve battled with social anxiety and paranoia for about 2 – 3 years and it’s only been this past year that I’ve started overcoming social anxiety, and I’m still no where near overcoming it, I know that but as long as I keep doing what I’m doing it can keep it managed, this goes with my paranoia when the time comes for me to start overcoming paranoia I’ll remember it’s going to take a long time and that’s just how it is.

I’m still on my journey of overcoming social anxiety and I’m willing to go through the long process, as at the end of it I’ll be free and that’s all I want to be to be honest with you.

Now most likely this didn’t help anyone, but if it did then let me know, and if you have any questions the best place you can reach me is my Twitter @JakeAllanXo Or my Instagram @JakeAllanXo

Thanks for reading

@JakeXo

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Time to Clear Things Up and Come Back Kicking

So I’ve not uploaded in over a month and the main cause of this is I had a bit of writers block. I was struggling coming up with ideas and I found it hard to think of blog posts I haven’t seen before, and that’s one of the biggest reason’s but, the main reason is that firstly I was focusing on making my youtube work (which btw I’ve decided to stop doing but I’ll get to that in a seocnd), I was then focusing on spending more time with family and friends for the last part of my summer holidays, and lastly I was starting back at school, so it’s been a pretty hectic month if I do say so myself.

Now to the reason I stopped youtube, I decided to stop doing youtube as I can’t find the time to sit and record edit and upload multiple videos a week, but I am still trying to find out if I could potentially change the out look of my channel, by making my gaming channel a sims speed build and cas channel as those are my favourite aspects of the Sims franchise, and I’m thinking about livestreaming alot more as to me livestreaming is so much easier to do through the week as there isn’t so much editing, there’s no time constraints or worrying if I’ll get it up one time ect., so that’s my idea, for my channel and for livestreaming.

Now that’s not to say I’m never going to have a let’s play on the Sims 4 because I’m most likely going to be doing a Sims 4 Cats and Dogs LP when the time comes so yeah, but for the time being I believe that livestreaming my current household and doing CAS and Speed Builds will be the best option for me to work it around school work.

Another thing I want to touch on is my podcast, now if you didn’t know I have a podcast called JakesPodcast, I know creative right??, and I haven’t uploaded on that in a while, this is not because Ive stopped or anything it’s basically because of soundcloud payment plans, my 3 hours recording limit has ran out and I’m working on being able to get the £8 subscription but I’ll most likely not be able to get it till just after Christmas to be able to get it month so for the time being I’m not uploading unfortunately but I will be when I’m able to get the £8 monthly subscription.

So now all that’s rounded up your probably wondering what’s happening with your blog then??… basically I’m back I’m got to try get back into uploading more often as I love blogging, to me my blog is like my home away for my home so it’s been breaking my heart not uploading and I really want to get back into it because over the past few weeks I’ve been thinking of how to come back and what posts I could upload, and today I decided to say fuck it let’s get back into so I did.

Hopefully this cleared things up and hopefully you stick around.

I also want to say thank you to a few consistent readers who have measaged me asking if I have left and what has been happening you’ve really made me want to come back and upload more so thank you xx

So thank you for reading and I’ll see in my next post I guess.

@JakeXo

Sims 4 and Teen Wolf

Over the past few weeks I have legit done nothing bar, play the Sims 4, watch netflix (more specifically Teen Wolf) and listened to Spotify. I’ve basically became a walking unsocial slug, well I’m mean more than usual and I have to say I’ve liked having some me time the past few weeks and just chilling and not having to worry about getting up early for plans or school ect. ( it’s the summer holidays over here in the UK ) and I’ve liked having a break from my podcast and blog, and now I’m excited to be back and rolling with new gaming videos starting tomorrow and a new podcast episode tomorrow as well.

I’m going to try and stick to my plan of uploading a gaming video 2 times a week, 1 podcast a week, 1 main channel video a week and 1 blog post a week, the reason I’m doing 2 gaming videos is I have 2 Sims Series’s on my channel the Let’s Play The Sims 4 Supernatural Beings series and also a new series I’m going to be starting for the Sims 3 so yeah.

Excited and Nervous but mostly excited, guess this means I’m not going to be an unsocial slug anymore huh??….. nah no it doesn’t

@JakeXo

Podcast Is Up And Thank You

Finally… so my friend has finally finished editing the podcast and it is up on sound cloud as we speak, but before I give you a link to the podcast I just want to say thank you to everyone who has supported my blog and my social media over that past months, you guys mean alot to me and you give me something to look forward to every time I upload a post, even though I don’t have a large following the followers I do have give me the strength and happiness to do what I do.

This podcast and my personal podcast is opening up and new window to you guys to let me interact with you more and to hopefully make a difference in someone’s life, I hope you enjoy these podcasts and please let me know any feedback back, either on my social media or on my blog thank you guys and I love xx

Personal : JakesPodcast

Group: The Girls + The Gay

@JakeXo

Best Friend

We all have a group of friends we consider our “best friends” but in every group we all have the Best Friend the one that tops o the rest and for me thats my best friend erin see over the last couple of weeks i have been having some guy trouble and shes helped me through it all.

I like to consider her my sister more than best frienda because i can go to her with anything and i know i would get an easy simple straight to the point answer and some times that what you need i life.

So Erin if your reading this thank you for being there for me no matter what and i love you x

@JakeXo

Being A Middle/Oldest Child

If you don’t know I’m the middle child in my family but the oldest child in the home due to my brother moving out.

So it’s my big brother (20) Me (14) my sister (12)

Due to me having a little sister even tho I love her she can get really on my nerves every time she does something or we get in an argument (like most sibblings do) she makes it out that it was my fault witch really pisses me off a bit because she always tell my dad it’s my fault and me and my dad aren’t on the right side of the father and son relationship.

See since I came out as gay to my parents back in August last year me and him haven’t been on the right page and the same as me and my mum were for a couple of weeks then we went back to normal. Now I know he “needs time to get used to it” but it’s been a year now and it seems we argue everyday.

So with my sister stirring the pot and tell on me for nothing she is really making it worse and it’s just make shit worse between me and my dad.

But yeah on a brighter note I’m think of starting to talk to my gran again see we’ve not talked for years almost 5 and with things that have happened over the last month and everything with my dad and sister I think it would do me good.

Just so you know I love my sister and my dad it’s just like how can I describe it, It’s like a jigsaw puzzle when your building it and your missing a piece or pieces of that jigsaw puzzle and you look for them. It’s a bit like that there’s piece missing and I have to find them so I can finish it.

@JakeXo