At some point in ours lives we will experience the fear of social anxiety, for some people its just a little thing and we get over it fairly quickly, for other people it sort of over powers them and makes them so nervous it comes without words.
For me I used to be riddled with social anxiety, there was a point in my life where I was scared of stepping outside of my front door encase I met someone I knew or the fear of just being judged. I was like this for months, I guess that’s just a side affect of being bullied.
See no one really explains how it feels to have social anxiety, I guess the closet thing I could describe it to is the feeling of having to do a school presentation, you know the feeling where you feel a lump in your throat because you have to stand in front of your classmates or work-colleges and your scared of saying the wrong thing and looking stupid?? Well imagine feeling like that everyday but ten times worse.
Now I do have to say I’m not as bad as I used to be, I tend to be more confident and I’m able to go out and have a good time without worrying, that’s not to say that the thoughts of getting judged or seeing someone I know aren’t still there, cause they are but their more at the back of my head nowadays rather than the front.
The reason for me letting you know that I’ve struggled with social anxiety is because i want to help people who are going threw social anxiety or have went threw it and need someone to relate too or talk too.
Some tips that helped me when I was trying to get over social anxiety was something my Mum told me “who cares what people think of you, in a few years time you’ll never see half those people again” and she was right, if your going to school and your suffering from social anxiety, because your worried of being judged by certain people or your being bullied and your scared of seeing those assholes, just remember that this is just a small fraction of your life these people are only going to be in your life for a short period of time and then they’ll be gone out your life for ever.
Something that also helped me was reading other blogs about anxiety and social anxiety like Zoella and other blogs.
Other things that helped me with social anxiety is friendships, after I found a good supportive friend group, they helped me gain confidence and find who I was. Now I’m not friends with alot of that group anymore because… reasons but I have kept in contact with a few individuals like my friends Jamie Leigh and Caroline, along aside my two best friends Erin and Jennifer as those were the ones that were there for me through out everything, so I would recommend finding a supportive friend group or a supportive person to talk to.
See social anxiety shouldn’t be something that takes over your life and if it is you need to be the one to change it, see social anxiety won’t just disappear over night, it’s along, slow and hard process to just begin scratching the surface of social anxiety, I’ve battled with social anxiety and paranoia for about 2 – 3 years and it’s only been this past year that I’ve started overcoming social anxiety, and I’m still no where near overcoming it, I know that but as long as I keep doing what I’m doing it can keep it managed, this goes with my paranoia when the time comes for me to start overcoming paranoia I’ll remember it’s going to take a long time and that’s just how it is.
I’m still on my journey of overcoming social anxiety and I’m willing to go through the long process, as at the end of it I’ll be free and that’s all I want to be to be honest with you.
Now most likely this didn’t help anyone, but if it did then let me know, and if you have any questions the best place you can reach me is my Twitter @JakeAllanXo Or my Instagram @JakeAllanXo
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